This topic is a bit different than my usual post. It is more personal and I find that it is important for you all get to know me. This may be something you can relate to as well. I have a slight hunch I am not the only one with the bad case of the “Shoulds”.
Recently I have had a lot on my mind and most of it I realized is about things I think I should be doing. I don’t know if I am the only one here going through this but I must admit it feels like a vicious cycle. I can almost go on and on in my mind about things I should do rather than just doing them or accepting that whatever it is that I think I should be doing will have to wait. Does this sound familiar to you?
To let you in on some personal “should” (first time saying it out loud) we can start with my house. Those of you who know me know that I like my house clean. It’s more like spick-span and shiny clean. Well let’s just say over the past couple months it is not very shiny and sometimes it is hardly even neat.
I am typically on top of doing the laundry, dinner is planned out and started before my husband comes home, counters and stove top sparkly, and no dust in sight. Well now my husband does still have clean clothes but the piles of clean clothes are growing in the laundry room and the closets are looking a bit bare. Dust…yeah you can totally see it. Stove tops, well there is clear evidence of what we cooked all week. More like the times I actually cook now.
I go through my head thinking, “I should maybe start with a calendar and write out what I can do each day so it stays kept up with.” Then I think, “Okay tomorrow I should wake up earlier and clean something.” Then I think, “Well maybe I should just get to it tomorrow.” Notice how the “should” is always for tomorrow or later, and never just “at this moment I will_____”
Next we move on to my full time job as well as growing Imprinted Legacy. Oh man! Where to start? I keep thinking I “should get my “Do It Yourself” programs done as well as work on my 12 week program.” “Oh and while I am at it I should update information on my website and maybe even do a webinar.” Seriously, how many hours do I think I have in a day? I am a married woman with a full time job and growing a business so that one day it is my full time career.
And of course I also think about babies…..little Baca/Smith’s running around J. We want to have at least 3. So then I think “I should really get things back in order before we even start to try to have our first.” “Oh then I should go to the doctor and make sure I am not deficient in any nutrients before having a baby.” “Okay and then I should try to make sure my stress is better managed too because I know life will just get busier so I should keep my stress in check”. “And exercise of course….well I am doing it but perhaps I should do more Yoga and Pilates since I am having issues with my spine and I should really work on spine alignment before I get pregnant.”
Okay, okay, I will admit it. I have a bit of sorting out to do. I have all these plans and things in my mind that everything then turns into “should”. No wonder why I feel overwhelmed at times!
Now the interesting thing is what happens outside of the “shoulds”. I often find myself focusing more on making sure my husband has clean clothes and good food. Secondly I spend a lot of time behind the scenes with Imprinted Legacy.
So even if my house is not spick-span and shiny, haven’t changed my exercise routine, and programs for my business is not yet complete; I make my man happy and make sure I am taking care of him the best way I can with all the ruckus in my head, continue to focus on my passion (Imprinted Legacy), I eat whole foods over processed 90% of the time, and I exercise 20-30 minutes a day.
Could I do better in any of the areas I am working on? Absolutely!!! There is always going to be something else right? But today this is my best and I am learning more and more how to accept that. The other thing I am working on is decreasing the “shoulds” in my life.
Besides some days life will be more balanced than others and every day my best will always different.
Who ever said best = perfect anyway 😉